Many victims of the family and juvenile legal systems ask me, "Why is this happening to me and my children?" They do not understand the fundamental concept that God created the family and marriage, and that the church sustains the family. They don't see the connection between their rejection of those truths, and the problems they have.
When we live outside of the covenant of marriage, via divorce, adultery, living together, or other temporary arrangements, the culture cannot hold together, and individuals cannot hold their lives together.
When marriage shatters, the culture shatters, and the government usually rushes into the gap, with despotic one-size-fits-all laws, and terrible outcomes for children. However, most of the parents I deal with do not make the connection between a child protective services agency taking their children, for example, and the hedonistic lives they live.
No Marriage = Poverty
Marriage is the greatest force for lifting people out of poverty. Two-parent married families, on average, do much better financially, but single parents can barely make it without government assistance. When parents allow agencies to provide "services" to them, those are usually pretexts (from the agency's point of view) to prey on the families, rather then render help; Their goals are always to get more power, a larger budget, or to impose a personal agenda.
One of the greatest contemporary writers on this subject, Professor Stephen Baskerville, has completed a trilogy of articles about the marriage crisis, the sad consequences of no-fault divorce, and how rejection of marriage has ruined the culture. They can be found here, here, and here. Professor Baskerville has also written a brilliant book in 2006 called, "Taken Into Custody", about how the state family court system ruins children in divorce.
These articles will help you think deeply about the subject and may challenge your beliefs about the system of no-fault divorce and the role of the church in family life.